A friend shared this article with me yesterday, and it is a bullseye. It really is. You could also say the same for going through a terrible illness with your child. You lose a lot of friends… but fortunately gain others. It is a major life shift and to say “you find out who your friends are” doesn’t even cover it – that is much too cliché. Truly, some people are cut out to ride the long haul and gain perspective on life, and others are cut out to focus on the happy carrot dangling in front of their noses. They can’t deal with it or basically they choose not to deal with it.
Hey, going through difficult times is just that – difficult. Some people turn and run, some outsource the fight or the help so they can think they’re fighting while still not really facing things, then deal with what comes – and some stand and stay to face it all no matter what. Doesn’t mean anyone is a bad person… just means everyone’s different. Come to think of it, I think those three phases I just described, are levels of maturity. I say that because as I look back on my life I can put myself in each of those three situations, having evolved to the latter. Having lost a child myself, it all hurts the same to lose the friend whichever the reason.
This article is something I think everybody could benefit from reading, because even if you haven’t lost a child or don’t yet know somebody who has, at some point you will. It’s never a bad thing to try on someone else’s shoes… because that’s where true empathy comes from… aka loving others as yourself. And that is one of the very things God is calling each of us to do.
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Luke 10:27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'”